August 19, 2008
Promoting Your Business
The Art of Mingling
You're at a social event, a bar scene, a business conference and you are engaged in a dull conversation and want to move on and mingle with others who may show more promise. What do you do to get out of the present company without being offensive?
One good way to extricate yourself is to shake hands and say, "It's been so good to talk with you" and look the person in the eyes and say it with sincerity as you say goodbye. You are under no obligation to hang out with that person or to give a reason you are leaving.
Another method for moving on is a non-verbal cue. A distracting hand on the shoulder in a friendly manner becomes disarming allowing your to again say , "It's been so good to talk with you" as you look the person in the eyes and say with sincerity your goodbye.
Still another is if you see someone else you know in the room. "Oh, I see my friend Donna over there. I want you to meet her." It's always a good move to connect two people together who have something in common says Colleen Rickenbacher, author of "Be on Your Best Business Behavior." After you make this "human sacrifice" you can escape.
The art of mingling is to keep moving. You can pose an observation to a small group like, "Is it hot in here or is it just my imagination?" You also have to give back to the group as the conversation develops. Try to remember names as you circulate.
Be concise. A few minutes is more than enough time to see if there is interest or chemistry developing before moving on. If you see possibilities, show genuine interest in the conversation. You can say "And then what happened?" to get follow up. Also don" be afraid to poke fun at yourself and let the other person feel like they are important and special.
Body Language
Stand straight and have your weight balanced equally on your two feet. Don't slouch. Smile and maintain eye contact when you shake hands. If it is a larger group of people, introduce yourself.
Take a deep breath and walk around the room and introduce yourself. At least say "Hello." Don't be afraid to shake hands, give a smile and look them in the eyes.
Most important to stress is the art of listening. If you are too over eager to share information, it lessons your prizeability and effectiveness. Besides you may talk too much.
Pause often when speaking to let others inject comments or questions. When they talk show interest in what they have to say. Don't be too hasty to pull the conversation back into your control when the opportunity presents itself.
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